Is it depression or dementia?

 

I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder and along with that I am experiencing many symptoms that led me to believe I was in the early stage of dementia, like my Mom (who is now in the late stage).  They were so disturbing to me that I asked my doctor for a referral to the Geriatrician who diagnosed my Mom with Lewy Body Dementia.  The doctor asked me a lot of questions and gave me the test that is used to make a diagnosis.  Thankfully, she assured me that I do not have dementia.  She also said that it is not unusual for family and caregivers of those with dementia to be on high alert for signs of the disease in themselves.  She believes that my symptoms of forgetfulness, lack of concentration and focus,  inability to make decisions or multi task, etc are most likely due to my depression & anxiety (and possibly a side effect of some of the medications I am taking as well, for other conditions).  Read this article from Very Well for more information about the cognitive symptoms that can affect someone with depression.  Bottom Line as I understand it – if you know you are forgetting; it’s likely not dementia.  Those with dementia do not have the brain chemical to know they have forgotten.  Of course, having said all of this, I am not suggesting that it is always the case for every person with depression and can’t or won’t be dementia – only a trained physician can make that call.  But I am saying that there is hope. Depression is said to be treatable.  I fear having dementia more than any other disease because I see what my Mom’s life has been reduced to by this terminal disease.  I feel helpless.  The only thing I can do for her now is to give her love and affection.  She may not know who I am but she knows that I love her.  (I can tell by the smiles and hugs in return)

Very Well.com is an excellent resource for articles about dementia, such as Lewy Body Dementia and Alzheimer’s.   Take some time to visit verywell.com.  I think you will find some interesting and informative articles there – not only on dementia, they have lots of topics under the categories of Conditions, Living Well, Family and Health Care.  It appears that they take the time to update articles too as new information becomes available.  I hope to read one day about the cure that has been discovered for dementia!

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A must read for anyone who has a loved one with dementia.

I am currently reading A Dignified Life by Virginia Bell and David Troxel.   My intention was to finish the book before I recommended it here, but I am finding it such a good resource that I wanted to share it now as I know it will help many others who are looking for answers.

A Dignified Life BooK Cover

Ten years ago, the first edition of A Dignified Life changed the way the caregiving community approached Alzheimer’s disease by showing caregivers how to act as a Best Friend to the person, finding positive ways to interact even as mental abilities declined. Firmly grounded in the latest knowledge about the progression and treatment of dementia, this expanded edition offers a wealth of immediately usable tips and new problem-solving advice. It incorporates practical ideas for therapeutic activities—including the latest brain-fitness exercises—stimulate the brain while adding structure, meaning, and context to daily routines. With new stories and examples as well as an updated resources section, A Dignified Life, Revised and Expanded gives caregivers the support and advice they need to be successful and inspired in their demanding roles.

See more at:  hcibooks.com – A Dignified Life

or their website at:  Best Friends Approach

Life-Support Options For People With Serious Illness

Following are two links to life support options for people with serious illness and facing death.

Understanding the options that may be presented to you or your loved one is easier if you have the information ahead of time…when there is less chance for emotions to drive the decision.

PBS.org Frontline-facing death gives the reader guides to “Kinds of Life-Support Decisions” (Ventilators, Nutrition and Hydration, “Do Not Resuscitate” (DNR) Orders)  Including: “What to Know About Dying With Dementia” and “Family Conflict and Dementia”.

Eating and Not Eating as end of life approaches by Barbara Karnes, RN, end of life educator.  Her web site has tons of valuable information on matters concerning the dying process  (and see the video I have previously shared from Barbara Karnes).

Watch “Dementia Care Tips by Teepa Snow” on YouTube

Great advice when you become a caregiver.

Watch “Gladys Wilson and Naomi Feil” on YouTube

It’s amazing to me how someone that is usually unresponsive can be “brought to life” with things like music or validation therapy (as this video shows).  Recently my daughter and I visited Mom with my 2 1/2 year old grandson.  We were shocked when Mom spoke to him with complete clarity and playfulness.  When he spoke, Mom would turn her head to him and respond, something she rarely did when we spoke to her.  How is this possible?  Does his little voice bring her back to her early days as a Mom? Is that an area of her brain that has not been affected yet?  What else could we do that will bring Mom to life again, even if only for a few minutes.  Is she able to understand more on a daily basis than we think she can just because she cannot find the words to form sentences that make sense.  Is she afraid and frustrated because no one understands her?  I truly wish there was a way to read Mom’s thoughts so I could give her what she needs or may be longing for.  It’s scary to think we really don’t know what life is like for her or how she sees the world around her.  Are there times when she knows she is living in a locked facility full of strangers and left wondering where her family is? Without the answers, these questions continue to invade my thoughts and break my heart for Mom.

Watch “MESSAGE Communication in Dementia: Strategies for Care Staff” on YouTube

This video was intended to help caregivers communicate with people that have dementia, but I think it would be helpful for anyone in that situation.  It may be especially helpful for those that are uncomfortable visiting because they are unsure of how to communicate effectively.

We are all just walking each other home…author unknown